My First Threesome

This publication will look at some of the basics of having a threesome. For those of you who want more detail in regard to a certain subject then please search this site for more information.

Discuss the idea of having a threesome early

This means simply means do not have a threesome without talking about the idea outside of the bedroom. It is easy to confuse becoming aroused about the idea in the heat of passion but to find out during the reality of the day that as a person you have issues with having a threesome. In order to avoid miscommunication or going too far in a threesome it is necessary to have a few discussions outside of the bedroom so that each of you has a clear understanding of the other’s position on the subject.

Establish boundaries

Boundaries establish the limits of any threesome, they provide a safety net for the threesome, and help establish how the couple ’s relationship will function once the threesome is over with. In addition boundaries also need to be clear, agreeable, understandable, and not conflict with other boundaries . Without having some boundaries it is possible that a threesome may go further than what the participants anticipated and may cause problems later.

Safe-sex Practices

Safe sex goes beyond using a condom and a back up method for contraception. It includes have regular screenings and check-ups to ensure that you remain healthy. Also for the couple it is meant to protect their relationship from being damaged from contracting a sexually transmitted disease like herpes or having an unplanned pregnancy. Having a threesome can be quite an enjoyable experience but the last thing you want is an unexpected permanent reminder of the event.

Expectations

It is important to have expectations about how the threesome will operate, to have expectations in regard to how you expect to be treated, and expectations that your boundaries will be respected. However expectations can be unrealistic or set expectations too high which can lead to the threesome not being as enjoyable due to the expectations held. Before meeting your potential third person it is important to check your expectations by keeping those that relate to how the threesome will operate but discard those expectations that relate to the experience of having a threesome.

Risks

All threesomes are inherently risky and the risk of the threesome for the most part is dependent on what is being planned for it. Furthermore before each threesome is undertaken it is important that each person understands the risks involved for that planned threesome. The generic risks associated with all threesomes are: contracting a sexually transmitted disease and developing feelings for the third person whereas mfm and fmf threesomes also include the risk of pregnancy for women of child-bearing age. It is important that the risks are understood, a plan exists for them if they do develop, and where possible the risks are mitigated (minimized).

Avoiding the use of illicit drugs including cannabis and using alcohol in a responsible manner.

Illicit drugs including cannabis can allow someone do something that they normally would not do if they were sober. Plus the use of drugs increases the likelihood that bad feelings after the threesome will happen, risky behavior will happen, and the possibility of violence will occur in the threesome situation. Furthermore alcohol used in excess can produce similar results and needs to be used in moderation. The general rule is if you need to drink or get ‘high’ to have a threesome then you should not have one.

Threesome Basics - Part 2

Author: My First Threesome ™

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