My First Threesome

One of the options that a threesome has in the way of an activity is allowing anal sex to occur. In the ideal situation anal sex would not be an activity that would occur until the threesome had a chance to mature and become a cohesive unit. Anal sex involves a lot of trust, communication, gentleness and patience that develops from knowing each other. Anal sex can be thought of in some ways as an evolution of the threesome process.

Before anal sex even occurs the first step is for the couple to consider the idea and make their first decision if it is going to occur. Assuming that they agree then the next question becomes is it left for the couple to perform in front of the third person or will the third person be allowed this pleasure? Unfortunately there is no correct answer for this as it is up to the couple and if the couple is going to allow anal sex to occur with the third person it also involve the decision from the person from the couple who will be participating. Once they have made that decision the couple now needs to prepare for it. This means in all cases anal sex does require the proper use of a condom which is for the prevention of a urinary tract infection and also the prevention of the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Also it means that the couple purchases the proper water based lubricant in order not to break down the condom and properly clean any sex toys that maybe used (e.g. vibrator, dildo, or strap on). After they have all the needed items the threesome needs to slowly work up to anal sex . Some people say that anal sex is the dessert but anal sex in this author’s opinion can be the main course. It can be both visually stimulating to watch for the non participating person and quite pleasure if done correctly for the two that are engaging in it. It is important before anal sex occurs that the anus is properly stretched out, the anus is well lubricated, the individual is relaxed and entry is done very slowly. If pain is felt it means you are progressing too fast. Stop and let the pain pass. Sometimes taking a deep breath and exhaling slowly will help with the pain. As soon as the pain subsides entry can continue.

Anal sex in a threesome situation is an activity for a couple that is just starting out that needs to be considered. A couple should have been successful a few times with anal sex before actually trying it in a threesome situation. Reason for this is threefold. If the couple is going to be doing anal sex in the threesome they need to know how to do it correctly, what pace they need to do it at, and much fore play is needed. If it is to include the third person then they need to know what works, how much lubrication is needed, and how to work entry. Without knowing this it is unlikely that having anal sex in a threesome situation will be successful as anal sex is an art form that requires a lot of practice. The basic steps to having anal sex are as follows:

1. Make sure there is not medical reason as to why anal sex cannot occur. The point of anal sex is enjoyment it should not hurt or cause injury.
2. Adequate foreplay to ensure that your partner is properly arouse
3. Lubricate your partner’s anus and lubricate your finger
4. Make sure you have a condom on your penis or the toy.
5. Stimulate the area around the anus with your finger and slowly insert your lubricated finger.
6. Apply as needed more lubrication
7. Use the lubricated finger to stretch out the anus
8. As the anus relaxes and stretches insert another lubricated finger or a lubricated sex toy.
9. Slowly insert the second finger or toy.
10. Once anus feels relaxed there is a chance penetration might be possible.
11. Lubricate anus again and lubricate penis
12. Slowly penetrate the anus. Any resistance or pain stops at that point. Have your partner relax. Usually relaxing is best accomplished by taking a deep breath a slowly exhaling; sometimes this may need to be repeated.
13. Once pain subsides continue inserting at the same rate or slower. Penetrating may take 2 – 5 minutes, maybe even more. If pain is too much or there are signs of tearing, such as blood, then stop and withdraw.
14. If you have made it all of the way in your motions should be slow and without force. Speed should only be increased to the point it is enjoyable. Anal sex is not a sprint but a marathon that is meant to be enjoyed.

Finally remember anal sex if done improperly can cause injury. Take it slow and if there is any medical reason whatsoever for anal sex not to be performed then it must not be performed.

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